I would like to point out that it is very difficult to explain the issues at hand if people aren't willing to listen and actually look at what is going on in our family courts today. I believe that the children deserve to have the best situation possible in these circumstances.

What has happened in our society today, is that women's rights has gone to the opposite extreme against men!
If anyone has ever been in the courtroom of a divorce/child custody,etc. type situation, you would see what I mean. Father's who walk in the courtroom are labeled a "Deadbeat Dad" before they even have a chance to be heard. Not all Dad's are Deadbeats! But, because of this stereotype, children are torn away from their father's before they have any chances. It is not because there is any type of abuse or any charges like that in these cases! You have to be in the courtroom to see what happens! You look at the judges eyes and body language when they look at the father. You look at the lawyer's eyes and body language for the mother's side as well. You will see what I mean. The lawyer who defends the father, most of them do NOT fight very hard to get things resolved. Even when they know that so many laws are being broken.

Things need to change! Children are NOT Pawns, but are often made out to be pawns in order for the custodial parent, usually the mother, to get all the money, houses, cars, etc. The father usually winds up losing the title of parent, but rather is called a "visitor". How can you have a father/child relationship, when you are only allowed to "visit" your children once a month, a few times a year, or whenever the other parent and judge says you can! Then he also loses the majority of his paycheck! He is forced to provide for the family he is not together with, and still try to provide a roof over his head, food on the table, etc. for himself. And forget it if he wants to have a new start in life and gets remarried. Especially if he has children in that marriage. He is now forced to provide for TWO HOUSEHOLDS ON ONE INCOME!!! His children from the second marriage SUFFER AS WELL!!! They often become the "fotgotten family"

Think about it: the mother gets custody of the children, gets child support from their dad, gets a boyfriend or new husband, has children with him, NONE OF THOSE CHILDREN SUFFER FINANCIALLY. But the father of her first children, has to pay for both families! He can't get another job to try to make up for the lost wages, because the courts attach that money for child support for the first children as well! Please people things HAVE TO CHANGE!!!

What should be done so children aren't caught in the middle as the MAIN VICTIM'S in the whole ordeals, is this: If there is no proof of harm to the child, they should award JOINT CUSTODY PERIOD! WITH ABSOLUTELY NO CHILD SUPPORT AWARDED TO EITHER PARENT! Children need to have both parents in their lives. Both parents should be responsible for their own separate lives. Maintaining their own housing, etc. They are NO LONGER TOGETHER, DON'T TRY TO MAKE IT LIKE THEY ARE! They should work to get along when it comes to the children. They need to push all the crap aside and think of the children for crying out loud.

Children are people too! I am FOR NO CHILD SUPPORT AND SHARED PARENTING!!